As part of the development process for a new book Jim Duke (http://jimduke-guideforgaymen.com/)is writing about the gay online dating scene, Jim shares his views of some of the pitfalls and triumphs that come with online dating. The internet offers a tremendous amount of opportunity for people to connect and meet, but it also comes with a lack of social structure -- an etiquette, so to speak -- that helps guide people on what is and is not proper behavior. That reality is not likely to change, so how do you adapt to a reality that doesn't encourage openness and honesty in communication? Jim has some ideas and suggestions about how to make the online experience more meaningful and successful, beginning with defining what you really want to get out of it.