Tolani Shoneye, popularly known as Tolly T, is best known as one half of The Receipts Podcast, a leading UK podcast she co-hosts with Audrey Indome. Beyond the podcast, Tolani has made her mark as a writer, host, and influencer, contributing to publications such as Elle, The Independent, OK, and The I. She is a respected voice on topics like dating, love, race, culture, and self-empowerment. This week, we explore her experiences with racism in the UK, her journey in hosting one of the UK's biggest podcasts, and her advice for women aspiring to start their own ventures. We discuss: -Moving from the UK to Nigeria - Reconnecting with your mum for the first time - Growing up in Dagenham and facing racism - Surviving an abusive relationship - Navigating an estranged relationship with your father - Working at Buzzfeed - The birth of The Receipts Podcast - Co-hosting the UK's biggest podcast - Do women cheat? - Love is the closest thing to magic - The challenges of being a visible woman on the internet Chapters: (00:00:00) The Receipts Podcast: Real Conversations Among Women (00:05:43) The Millennial Agony Aunts (00:10:59) Creating a Safe Space for Sharing Stories (00:16:04) The Love for Celine Dion (00:21:30) Growing Up in Nigeria (00:26:40) Reuniting with Mom in England (00:31:33) Dealing with Racism in Dagenham (00:36:28) Overcoming Racism Together (00:41:34) Reflecting on Past Relationships (00:46:25) Recovery from a Toxic Relationship (00:52:01) Starting the Dream Job (00:56:55) Navigating Bias in the Workplace (01:01:46) Unconscious Racism and the Need for Self-Education (01:11:28) Starting the Podcast Journey (01:16:40) Starting the Podcast and Early Success (01:21:31) The Journey to Signing with Spotify (01:26:18) Reflecting on Leaving BuzzFeed and The Receipts Podcast (01:31:43) The Fear of Public Failure and Pivoting (01:36:34) Embracing Change (01:41:46) Stories of Cheating and Emotional Infidelity (01:47:11) The Complexity of Love and Infidelity (01:52:15) Love Languages: Acts of Service and Gift-Giving (01:57:13) Looking for a Partner (02:02:36) Privacy and Sharing Personal Stories (02:07:35) The Excitement of Live Shows and Writing Achievements (02:12:43) Education and Challenging Bias ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@HOWIBECAME__⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We're on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Unity & Motion⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - A London based production company specialising in commercial