On the anniversary of our marriage, one year in, we zoom way out and ask each other some questions. How have we grown, together and individually? How can we be better in this next year, and the years to come after that? And of course, what have we learned about how to stay in love?

Riley and I have asked one another thousands of questions over the course of our relationship, but very few of them have been explicitly directed towards understanding one another’s sexuality. That changes in this conversation.

NOT AT THE SAME TIME. Well, in the same conversation, just not both at once, you know what I mean. We check in on progress since a healthy breakthrough in our understanding of our own sex life, and recount a particularly unhealthy "breakthrough" off the highway somewhere in suburban Massachusetts.