Welcome to another insightful clip of *Black Out with Ian & Rashad*! In this clip, Ian Dunlap and Rashad Bilal tackle a critical question from our audience: "What do you do if you're in a marriage with two little kids and you've outgrown the marriage?" Ian and Rashad dive deep into the complexities of maintaining a marriage when personal growth and relationship dynamics start to diverge, especially with young children in the picture. The discussion starts with Ian sharing his thoughts on the importance of keeping family structure intact for the sake of the children, despite not being married himself. He emphasizes the need for men to put aside personal feelings to prevent passing on trauma to their children. Rashad offers a contrasting but equally compelling perspective. He believes that once you've outgrown a relationship and have exhausted all efforts to make it work—like therapy, interventions, and heart-to-heart conversations—divorce may be the best option. Rashad advocates for mental health and the importance of not staying in a toxic relationship merely for the kids' sake. He explains that children should not be the primary reason to stay in a relationship, as it often leads to further unhappiness and even infidelity. The hosts also discuss the broader issues affecting modern relationships, including the lack of effort people put into maintaining their relationships and the ease with which couples opt for separation today compared to past generations. Rashad points out that knowing you have options can sometimes make people less willing to put in the hard work necessary to sustain a relationship. Ian adds another layer to the conversation by urging men to be honest with themselves and their partners. He highlights the adverse effects of coercing someone to stay or settling for a relationship out of convenience. These situations not only create emotional turmoil but also lead to financial burdens and increased stress in the long run. Whether you're in a challenging relationship or just looking for advice on maintaining a healthy one, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. 👉 Don’t miss out on this heartfelt and thought-provoking discussion! **Key Topics Discussed:** - Challenges of maintaining a marriage with young kids - Importance of family structure - Mental health and relationships - When to consider divorce - Modern relationship dynamics **Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share if you find this episode helpful!** **Hashtags:** #BlackOutPodcast #MarriageAdvice #Parenting #MentalHealth #Divorce #RelationshipAdvice #IanDunlap #RashadBilal **Timestamps:** 0:00 - Introduction 0:20 - Audience Question: Marriage and Kids 1:15 - Ian’s Take on Family Structure 3:10 - Rashad on Mental Health and Relationships 5:00 - Effort in Modern Relationships 7:05 - Honest Conversations in Relationships 10:00 - Final Thoughts Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy