A big happy birthday to the Dalai Lama, a big source of inspiration for today’s podcast. “The three factors that seem to have the greatest influence on increasing our happiness are our ability to reframe our situation more positively, our ability to experience gratitude, and our choice to be kind and generous.” - Dalai Lama We take you through our thoughts after Lucy was recently praised for being selfish. Something she immediately thought of as a negative trait and took offence too. However, it inspired her to ponder on the topic and try to better understand the motivation of the comment. We discuss the difference between happiness and joy, feeling guilty for doing what you love, biting the bullet, if you were in a life threatening car accident, and learning how to take the positives in everything life throws at you. Lucy’s Joy Exercise What would bring me more joy? ie. learning something new, (for me it’s aromatherapy when I’m home) What holds back joy? ie. comparing yourself to others What negative things do I do that makes joy fleeting? ie. spending too much time on Instagram How can I change joy from a state to a trait? ie. practicing meditation What brings me joy, not happiness? ie. star grazing, waking up next to your loved on, a hug from a friend Where do I place blame when I’m annoyed? ie. (it’s important to start with yourself) my tendency to assume How can I override those defaults? ie. practise lowering expectations and reliance on others REFERENCES The Book of Joy - Dalai Lama (thank you for the recommendation Sarah!) The Tattooist of Auschwitz - Heather Morris Design Drop Email   CATCH LIFE DESIGN DIARIES ON Website Instagram Facebook We really hope you enjoy this podcast and it brings you joy! Do you agree with our opinion on being selfish? There are currently a whopping 50 iTunes reviews on our podcast, we take on board and thoroughly read each and every one of them. We can’t thank you all enough for taking the time to leave them. If you haven’t yet left us a review please click ‘more episodes’ scroll to the bottom of our show page and drop us a line! Ross + Lucy   Topics discussed on our podcast: happiness, mindset, positivity, life, meditation, inner peace, yoga, spirituality, goal setting, humanity, love, Dalai Lama, Buddhism Years Of Collected and Applied Learnings from the likes of Tim Ferriss, GaryVee, Gary Vaynerchuk, NPR, How I Built This, Joe Rogan, TED, Planet Money, Jocko, Property Podcast, Tony Robbins, Tai Lopez, Rob Moore, Aubery Marcus, Mark Manson, Simon Sinek, Robert Kiyosaki, Stephen Covey