For the first time in my marriage, I am not putting my needs on the back burner and it feels weird. For the majority of our marriage, I have always put the needs of my relationship over my own. Junior never asked me to do this and for the majority of the time I had no idea that I was not attending to my needs. I ask myself questions like is this a need or a want? Is it the junior's responsibility to fulfill my needs or my own? Is it fair to not meet his needs to take care of my own? In a marriage, if two people are in need who needs to take precedence and why? What do I do if my needs aren't being met? In this episode, I would love to share with you what I have learned so far on needs wants, and desires, what experts say on this topic, and tips and advice that may help you dance the dance between your needs and wants and your spouses. Podcast Mentions Healthline: Emotional Needs John Gottman:  Why You Need to Accept Your Partner’s Needs Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support