Timestamps01:21 What is discipline? 03:11 How to step away from punishment 04:17 Put yourself inside their experience 04:45 Children are normal in the way they present themselves 05:20 Parents struggle to see their children neutrally  06:27 Our children invite us to grow ourselves up so that we can grow them up 07:43 Central developmental realities 08:43 Emergent phase  09:51 QTIP - Quit Taking It Personally 12:00 Adaptive 12:41 Adaptive = vulnerable  13:10   Point of connection creates context to parent 14:30   Firm & kind 14:45 The Parenting Mountain 18:40   Working on ourselves 19:30   Connection 21:23 Toddlers who bite 21:55 Flag drop 23:45 Do we need to deal with the problem immediately? 28:45 Techniques  29:05 We cannot control a child who has lost control of themselves 31:05 Give in & come alongside  32:25 Children are human beings 33:20 Do children understand their emotions? 36:14   What do parents do with themselves? 36:51 We have to be self full in order to be selfless  39:45 Self care is not about going and getting a massage 40:50   Psychological distance 42:26 We were never meant to go this alone 44:30 Take home message - The bottom line is relationship Dr. Vanessa LaPointe Dr. Vanessa LaPointe is a mom, registered psychologist, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. Founder and director of The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic, she has been supporting families and children for almost 20 years, and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system. Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. Discipline without Damage When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, is it really possible to keep your cool, correct the behaviour, and reinforce healthy development, all at the same time? In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should reinforce connection, not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.