We are honored to be joined with Kelly, a mother of two young kids aged 2 and 4 months old. Kelly has been married for seven years but is currently separated. She wrote in because her husband struggles with depression and anxiety and she’s found that there’s little space for her to express her own needs without him either taking it as a personal attack or spiraling into a depressive episode.  We discuss solutions and approaches that could help Kelly and her husband to team up as one and treat depression as an intruder in their relationship.   We encourage Kelly and her husband to develop a plan for restructuring their relationship and learn skills to communicate better during the times that they  would normally escalate.