In this conversation, Nina and Eli delve into the intricacies of attachment theory and its profound influence on parenting. Eli shares her personal journey with attachment styles, the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, and the importance of fostering secure attachments with children. They discuss the various attachment styles, how they manifest in parenting, and the significance of conflict resolution and repair in maintaining healthy relationships with children. In this conversation, Nina and Eli explore the complexities of parenting, focusing on the emotional challenges parents face and the importance of secure attachment. They discuss the balance between acknowledging one's own insecurities while striving to provide a nurturing environment for children. Eli emphasizes the significance of making repairs in relationships, the pitfalls of over-apologizing, and the misconceptions surrounding boundaries and connection. He outlines four essential practices for parents to foster secure attachments with their children, highlighting the need for emotional regulation and self-awareness in parenting. 00:00: Understanding Attachment Theory 07:09: The Impact of Attachment on Parenting 13:57: Exploring Attachment Styles 20:08: Navigating Conflict and Repair in Parenting 25:38: Navigating Parenting Insecurities 27:24: The Burden of Repair in Parenting 29:07: Over-Apologizing: A Common Parental Pitfall 32:40: Misconceptions About Boundaries and Connection 35:36: Four Essential Parenting Practices 42:33: Finding Balance in Parenting Meet Eli Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, author, and educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants. Episode Sponsor Lume offers full body deodorant that is baking soda and paraben free and ph balanced. New customers get 15% off all Lume products with our exclusive code, mamaknows at lumedeodorant.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices