Danielle and Adam discuss why communication is just so damn hard. Each reflects on what communication was like in their households growing up, how gender roles affects communication styles, and what type of communicator each is currently. Plus, where have they made progress concerning communication, and where do they still need to improve? Join Danielle on January 25th, 26th, and 27th in the evenings, EST. for an empowering virtual workshop for women. Beyond Permission will be led by Danielle...

** This episode mentions and has some discussion of sexual trauma. Please take care while listening.  Recently, Danielle asked her good friend, sex and intimacy coach, Leah Carey, to listen to her and Adam's wildly popular episode, “Awakening The Sex Talk Demons.” Danielle wanted to know why this conversation with Adam concerning intimacy had been so explosive and chaotic before it was able to be productive. Had they done it wrong? Is it actually possible to tell your partner you need more,...

In this follow-up episode to last week's "When Is It The Last Straw," Adam breaks down some of what he has reflected on, realized, and is starting to learn, even in the past week. However, he also admits that removing his ego from the equation is difficult for him. Danielle and Adam discuss their history with therapy, why it hasn't been effective for Adam in the past, and why he presently is beginning to change his view on it. Adam confronts Danielle about the confusing mixed messages she...

In this difficult, impactful episode, Danielle and Adam get real and raw about some pretty complicated issues they've been dealing with recently. Danielle attempts to "walk the walk" concerning her changing expectations and "demands" about which she talked in the Letting My Freak Flag Fly episode. What set it all off? What influences have led to her fresh understanding of what a partnership should look like? How can Danielle and Adam move forward and not fall back into old patterns? This...

In the first solo episode since "Is She....Letting Herself Go," Danielle discusses the ways she has always had to "tone herself down" to fit into the confines of societal norms and expectations. However, now that she is older and has stopped restricting herself so much, she is working towards creating a life where she can feel as close to 100% of her true self as often as possible. This means podcasting more, containing to work towards body acceptance and allowing herself to continue to savor...

Danielle and Adam have been participating in their own challenge for over three weeks now, and the results have been awesome. When Danielle first created The Challenge, she hoped that it would lead to improved communication, intimacy, laughter, and connection....and it has far surpassed her expectations. Now, Danielle and Adam are offering other couples to have the same chance to participate in their own version of The Challenge. This month-long experience gives couples everything they need...

In their follow-up episode about The Love Languages, Danielle and Adam go much deeper into everything from the overall concept, certain problematic aspects of the overall phenomena, and what they would both need from EACH of the five love languages. Plus, they talk more about Adam's findings concerning the symbolism behind the upside-down pineapple and the red Adirondack chairs. What are Danielle's thoughts about Words of Affirmation, and what would she prefer to have that feels more organic...

People always ask Danielle and Adam to do an episode on The Five Love Languages. So, they're finally doing it. But, they're doing it their own way. Danielle talks about why she refuses to choose one love language. Adam talks about his concern that the love languages quiz would be viewed more of a "test" and how that affected his answers. The two discuss how their love language styles would have most definitely changed over the course of their relationship, and how certain important aspects of...

Danielle and Hanif discuss the life events that impacted Hanif so greatly that he co-founded the Center For Equity and Inclusion. Born to a father of Indian descent from Tanzania, and a Mexican-American mother, Hanif breaks down how being a person of color has affected his identity in every space he's occupied in life. Also, how his parents' desire to have their children assimilate into American culture caused a lot of confusion concerning how he should feel about his mixed background. For...

Danielle and Adam have the opportunity to choose one challenge for each other to complete in the next thirty days. They discuss how they came up with these challenges, how they think one another should go about doing the work to complete them, and what the ultimate goal is for each. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why is it so hard for us to get into a mindset that allows us to just feel contentment and happiness in the life we've created? In this episode, Danielle discusses the "guilt" she feels for not being able to fully embrace all of the new, positive aspects of life this move has brought their family. If happiness is the goal in life, why is it so difficult for us to feel that ultimate emotion over long periods of time? Adam and Danielle break down the thoughts of Brene Brown, the ways we've been...

After a whirlwind phase of chaotic life events, Danielle wants to take a moment and discuss how far she and Adam have come as individuals, as a couple, and especially as parents. But, the two realize that just stopping and living in the moment is difficult when there are still so many uncertainties. Still, the couple attempt to discuss the fact that it's necessary to stop and reflect on how much they've accomplished together over the past year and a half (and longer). Some things the two...

Three days ago, Danielle and Adam dropped their daughter, Mia, off for her freshman year at college. But getting to this point was nothing short of a rollercoaster of a journey. In this episode, Danielle and her sister, Life Coach Amy, discuss what they've both learned about preparing our kids (and ourselves) for the post-high school phase. Amy has sent her two kids off to college, and helps other moms deal with this transitional time of life filled with so much change and uncertainty. Some...

For the majority of their relationship, Danielle and Adam have slept in separate bedrooms. So, what happens when, after all this time, they attempt to sleep together all through the night in the same bed? Why does Danielle feel like this is an important change to make in the relationship at this particular stage of life? How did they start sleeping in separate bedrooms in the first place? Adam and Danielle break down the history of their "sleep divorce" and all the reasons it may have worked...

In an episode that Adam describes as, "one of his favorite we've ever recorded," the two discuss more concerning etiquette and how these unwritten "rules" have affected their lives. Adam goes deep into the frustration of owning a retail business and why "the customer isn't always right." Danielle talks about the workers who she thinks should be tipped ALL THE MONEY for what they are expected to do. They also talk about the hardships of teaching kids how to behave out in the world when over...

This episode of the podcast is brought to you by two people who desperately need sleep, don't have enough energy to make much sense, but really wanted to check in with everyone with a quick update. Danielle and Adam discuss finally being in their new home, why this was the most draining of all the moves, and how they're embracing their new small-town lifestyle. Danielle talks more about her guilt concerning moving the cats to a new home, and Adam is excited to talk all about his new lawnmower...

It took two tries for Danielle and Adam to record this episode, because the first attempt ended in one of the worst arguments they've had in months. However, the second time, the conversation was one of the best and most honest talks about sex and intimacy on the podcast. However, this was after four hours of heated debate and fighting after Danielle opened up a "can of worms" that neither of them was expecting would result in such anger and frustrating on both their parts. In what Danielle...

In a society that glamorizes the idea of "doing it all," it's easy to get sucked in to the idea that if we aren't doing it all, we're somehow failing. But according to Kendra, AKA "The Lazy Genius," we absolutely do not need to and should not even attempt to do it all. In this episode, self proclaimed "hot mess mom" Danielle asks Kendra about everything from the secret to making a good "to do list," to how we can possibly stop feeling like laundry is taking over our lives, to how we know...

In this highly requested follow-up to last week's episode about moving into their seventh house, Danielle and Adam talk more deeply about how the stress is starting to manifest in ways that aren't so positive, and how the impending move is making them appreciate certain aspects of their current lives that they may have taken for granted. Also, what types of rituals, products, and habits are saving them right now, and making the whole process a little easier? Danielle talks new bras, clothing,...

In this extremely vulnerable episode, Adam and Danielle divulge all the details concerning their move: why, where, and when. Plus, they go on some pretty crazy tangents about some TMI concerning Danielle's recent sexual craze, and Adam's ridiculous stress level. The two discuss how their relationship has changed since the last move, and how Adam's obsession with moving has completely transformed. Plus, what are they hoping to get from their new house and the town to which they're moving that...

It's pride month, but it's always a good time to celebrate all the love. This episode has no shortage of real, honest, deep, intense love, and what beautiful things can happen when someone stops letting society dictate how their life should look, and starts looking inward to make big decisions. Danielle was so excited to catch up with her friend, Linda, to get caught up on the impactful and enormous changes that have occurred since she came out over two years ago. Danielle was even more...

Danielle and Adam are finally reunited with Erica and Jamilah from the podcast, Good Moms Bad Choices, and in this episode they are going DEEP into what society gets wrong about relationships, and why they're shifting the narrative about what a "life-partner" can look like. These best friends discuss everything from how Erica had the courage to ask Milah to "be her friend," when they were both young single moms, and the incredible bond that has developed and evolved since then. In this...

So many couples go years without ever truly "checking in" with one another to discuss how things are going between them and which aspects of their relationship they need to focus on and improve, as well as which aspects of their relationship are going well. Danielle and Adam sit down to do a "relationship check-in" in real time. After looking for a "check-in" that suits their needs but not finding anything she really liked, Danielle creates one that she feels is more comprehensive and...

Danielle has been extremely honest about her struggle with body image and self-acceptance. She was so excited to sit down and ask one of her biggest role models, Sarah Landry (aka The Bird's Papaya) all about her experience and journey towards unapologetic body confidence. The two discuss why a attaining a "goal body" isn't all it's cracked up to be, how they're trying to show up in the world even when they feel uncomfortable, and what they really think makes a person incredibly sexy. Sarah...

For the past four and a half years, there's one question that Danielle and Adam get pretty regularly: "why do you have to curse so much?" It's a fair question, and one that actually doesn't bother them, as long as it's asked in a f*cking respectful way. So, why do they curse so much? In what ways do they feel that the art of cursing is misunderstood? What are their rules as parents concerning their kids using profanity? What are their favorite lines from movies that involve cursing? Which of...