“I have been a magnet to narcissistic men/relationships. And every single time the relationship failed, I would spend sooo much time nit-picking all of the things about myself that I could have “done better” or “changed” to have succeeded in “keeping” a relationship with someone who never wanted to be kept. One thing I have never managed to grasp though is, what does the narcissist actually WANT? I’ve been told (after so much time invested) “idk what I want.” Like, excuse me? Then what is the point in staying together? Why lay on layers of resentment towards each other and being unhappy, if it isn’t what you want? Where does the narcissist get off on sneaky-links? They don’t want to be seen as being the reason for failure but, they do things that cause the failure..? So, when a narcissist says “idk what I want” then comes back with the love-bombing and says “I didn’t mean it, I was upset”, then continues the cycle and patterns… what does that mean? What is the point in that?”
bre.k93 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/23/22