Imagine this scene: You’re shopping in Target with one child pulling on your leg and the other grabbing random items off the shelves, wailing, “PLEEEEASE Mommy can I have this?” An elderly woman in the same aisle smiles at you and says, “You’re going to miss this, dear! The days are long but the years are short!” Or imagine that you buy a parenting book about a discipline approach that your sister-in-law raves about, but when you try it at home it just makes you feel uneasy. But it’s all you’re seeing on your Instagram ads and hearing about from your mom friends, so you decide just to push through, even though it’s making you miserable. Whether unrealistic expectations are placed on us by well-meaning people, or we place them on ourselves due to our own childhood experiences, it is something that constantly plagues us with self-doubt. Am I doing enough? Am I doing this right? On today’s episode, I’m talking with Danielle Bettmann, parenting coach at Parenting Wholeheartedly and the host of the Failing Motherhood Podcast, about how we can declutter these unrealistic expectations and have confidence in our parenting again. Danielle is a positive-Discipline certified parenting coach who empowers parents to crack the code of their strong-willed child's personality, meet their deepest core needs to improve their behavior, and find new levels of patience. An early childhood educator, certified teacher and home visitor, Danielle now equips parents from all over via Zoom! Instead of inadvertently inviting defiance by using traditional tools or playing "whack-a-mole" with short-sighted reactions, families get on the same page and learn how to cultivate cooperation while being KIND + FIRM at the same time! Host of the well-loved podcast, Failing Motherhood, she's passionate about eliminating shame from parents' vocabulary, reminding them they are the parent their kids need. She is also a mom to two daughters, wife of 15 years to her high-school sweetheart, and an avid fan of sunshine and coffee. Resources Mentioned: Connect with Danielle on her website, her podcast, and Instagram. I would highly recommend her FREE Calm + Confident masterclass where you’ll learn  how to master the KIND + FIRM approach that your strong-willed child needs without crushing their spirit or walking on eggshells. Related Episodes: Episode 31: Effectively Parenting Strong-Willed Kids When You’re Overwhelmed with Danielle Bettmann from Parenting Wholeheartedly Episode 120: Chronic People-Pleaser? Declutter Your Need to Please with Mikki Gardner from Co-Parenting with Confidence Episode 112: Opt Out of Mom Guilt and Let Go of “Either/Or” Thinking - with Stephanie O’Dea *** I help moms declutter their homes, heads, and hearts. Contact - > [email protected]  Podcast -＞ www.simplebyemmy.com/podcast Learn -＞ www.simplebyemmy.com/resources  Connect -＞ Join our free Facebook group Decluttering Tips and Support for Overwhelmed Moms Instagram -＞ @simplebyemmy and @momsovercomingoverwhelm   *** Don't Know Where to Start? *** 5 Steps to Overcome Overwhelm -＞ https://simplebyemmy.com/5steps/ 5 Mindset Shifts for Decluttering -＞ https://simplebyemmy.com/mindset/   Wanna work with me to kick overwhelm to the curb, mama? There are three options for you! Step 1: Join a supportive community of moms plus decluttering challenges to keep you on track at the free Facebook group Decluttering Tips and Support for Overwhelmed Moms Step 2: Sign up for the weekly Decluttering Tips and Resources for Overwhelmed Moms Newsletter and see samples here: https://pages.simplebyemmy.com/profile Step 3: Get more personalized support with in-person or virtual decluttering coaching! www.simplebyemmy.com/coaching