Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What's junk to the untrained eye is a gold mine to the educated. Value is determined by the one whose exchanging goods. How valuable are you?
On an airplane, you are instructed to put the mask on yourself before you try to help someone else. Should we be self-absorbed, no. Are there times you must put your concerns first, yes! Find out when you need to be, Selfish.