“The subtleties of narcissism are very powerful looking back on a 20 year marriage I now see that the undermining started before the marriage (you can’t speak properly, you’re a rough northern girl, you shouldn’t go running, you’re very messy, you don’t have real friends) other personality traits were often enhanced so I couldn’t pick holes in his behaviour, often lavish presents out of the blue when we were struggling for money. His alcoholism was presented as being caused by me as I’d ‘chosen’ an expensive life style, that I didn’t support him to stop even though when I brought it up I was told I had the wrong idea about his drinking. I am a deep thinker and scared of conflict so I’ve spent most of my 20 years marriage relatively mute. I suspect this is what he’ll say is unreasonable behaviour for our divorce. Wish me luck.”
Knotanitter via Apple Podcasts ·
Great Britain ·
11/25/21