“Dr Ramini, let me start by saying I love your content and I watch so much of what you put out there. But this episode (especially your take always at the end of the episode had me screaming at my phone). What a disappointment. I’m actually shocked by your analysis of this story.
This episode was not about a unsuspecting women getting involved with a dangerous narcissist. This episode was about two narcissists (one more malignant than the other getting together and it not working out).
The whole episode Kiersten was using blameshifting to explain how she ended up in this situation. It was her childhood sexual abuse. She was in a fog. She was overwhelmed by his charm. She was in a bad place economically. Etc. Classic blameshifting. She got into that relationship because she chose to get into that relationship. Period.
And then at the end you try to make a distinction between narcissistic infidelity and “drift away” infidelity. There is no distinction. Healthy adults don’t betray their spouses and put their sexual health at risk. If they want out of a marriage to start a new relationship, then they end the marriage and move on. Kiersten clearly felt entitled to this new shiny relationship giving no thought on how it would hurt her spouse.
For you to call it “non-toxic” cheating and that not all cheating is bad cheating is just abhorrent. Ask someone who got HPV from their cheating spouse if she/he thought their partner’s cheating was non toxic.
I think you were trying to make Kiersten’s story make sense for your platform, but it just doesn’t. You way missed the mark on this one. Terrible.”
laleebee via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/12/24