Today, I’m chatting with Kyra Gilchrist, a relationship anarchist and solo polyamory advocate. Kyra shares with us how she coped with the aftermath of being vetoed from the relationship that she was in when she was last on the show in episode nine. She describes how being vetoed can be traumatic, how she coped with it, and the tools and skills that she learned working through it.  Kyra is a childcare and birth worker of color living in Seattle with her two cats and turtle. In her spare time she grounds herself with reading, nature and loved ones. She is passionate about social justice and hard cider.  💨 TLDR; What is Being Vetoed/ Couples Privilege?Deconstructing Monogamy for PolyamoryHow Trauma Can Shape Your ExperienceHow to Deal With the Emotions That Come Along with MemoriesWhy Friendship and Community Are ImportantHealing Comes From WithinHonoring Your GriefHonoring Yourself and Your Progress❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon!  📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. If you would like the behind the scenes exclusive content, become a Patron today! www.patreon.com/notmonogamous Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online            - Website            - Facebook            - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout About Us Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box. Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you  move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapainecoaching.hbportal.co/schedule/605eb4a8812d3751b4c44ccc Support the show