After 28 years of pure monogamy, my guest today dove into a sexuality community to explore something different during what one might call a midlife crisis, only to find herself with a primary relationship that created a load of freedom and challenged her to know the difference between her edges and her boundaries. My guest today is Kim Holden. Kim and I chat about exploring sexuality and relationship dynamics after you've been through a divorce, practicing tools to recognize your own personal yes and your own personal no when you're making decisions, and examining the difference between your edges and your boundaries in relationships. Kim Holden is an intimacy and relationship coach. She guides singles and couples to untangle feelings of unworthiness, shame, and invisibility and connect with their power, confidence, and unique flavor. She holds exquisite space for clients to open up and access their authentic pleasure and truth. As a breast cancer survivor, she is dedicated to helping other survivors renew their joy through connection to body, mind and soul in a new and meaningful way.  💨 TLDR; The Journey from Monogamy to Non-MonogamyTools for Reconnecting with YourselfFinding Your Embodied YesHaving Multiple Stories Be TrueThe Importance of CommunityDefining What Your Relationships AreTools for Co-Regulating❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon!  Want to connect with Kim? www.kimholden.com Instagram 📚 Books mentioned:   I Love you the Purplest, by Brenda Joosse Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. If you would like the behind the scenes exclusive content, become a Patron today! www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online            - Website            - Facebook            - Instagram Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you  move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapainecoaching.hbportal.co/schedule/605eb4a8812d3751b4c44ccc Support the show