The non-monogamous relationship journey is brimming with complexity and profound self-discovery. This episode opens a window into this world, as we chat with Victor Salmon, who walks us through their journey from their initial exposure to polyamory to their experiences within the BDSM community. Victor offers a fresh perspective on managing jealousy and understanding human connections. We get real about the intricacies of being a hinge partner and what it means to be a 'unicorn' in the Swinger community. Victor shares the importance of setting boundaries versus people-pleasing, and how trauma can impact relationships. We delve into emotional maturity and celebrate the growth that comes with breaking away from monogamous conditioning. Finally, we discuss how to set boundaries, understand our own attachment styles, and be sensitive to our partner's needs. By the end of our chat with Victor, you'll be equipped with a wealth of knowledge on crafting healthier, more satisfying relationships, whether you're venturing into polyamory or simply looking to understand it better.  Victor Salmon, is a beacon of inspiration for those searching for a healthier emotional and relational outlook. Victor's initial exposure to non-hierarchical polyamory and subsequent experiences within the BDSM community have shaped their nurturing approach to emotional well-being. Victor excels at translating complex emotions into relatable insights that encourage self-reflection and cultivate healthier relationships.  📚 Books mentioned: Nonviolent Communication, by Marshall Rosenberg Polysecure by Jessica Fern Connect with Victor https://intimatevictor.com/resources/podcast/ Join Beyond Compare, the 8-week group coaching program designed to empower non-monogamous women like you. 🌸🌈🔒 Cultivate self-love and unleash embodied confidence💃 Overcome jealousy and insecurity🤔 Gain clarity in your relationships and lifeLearn more and start your journey today! https://elleciapaine.podia.com/beyondcompare Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you  move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. If you would like the behind the scenes exclusive content, become a Patron today! www.patreon.com/notmonogamous Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout