This episode is brought to you by the following:  Miracle Made: Go to www.TryMiracle.com/VALERIA and use the code VALERIA to claim your free 3-piece towel set and save over 40% off. Better Help: Not Alone is sponsored by Better Help. Give online therapy a try at www.betterhelp.com/notalone and get on your way to being your best self. Magic Spoon: Go to www.magicspoon.com/NOTALONE and use our promo code NOTALONE at checkout to save five dollars off your order!  Today, Valeria welcomes Allison Holker to Not Alone. Since the passing of her husband Stephen (better known to the world as tWitch), Allison has been on the road to healing, self-discovery, and self-love. Together, Allison and Valeria talk about the power of faith and the comfort it provides, parenting your children through grief, how to have a successful and loving relationship with your teens, and the problem with toxic positivity. Allison Holker is a dancer and choreographer who got her start on Season 2 of So You Think You Can Dance. From there she joined SYTYCD as an All-Star in later seasons, danced as a pro on Dancing With The Stars, hosted Disney’s Fairytale Weddings, and is now a judge on So You Think You Can Dance for Season 18. She is the mother of 3 beautiful children and is an author now as well.  Check out Allison’s new children’s book “Keep Dancing Through: A Boss Family Groove” https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/727521/keep-dancing-through-by-allison-holker-boss-stephen-twitch-boss/  Allison is on: https://www.instagram.com/allisonholker  https://www.tiktok.com/@allisonholkerboss  https://www.facebook.com/holkerallison/  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 01:39 We found bringing people in so enjoyable 03:00 Letting go of trying to control everything 04:24 There are a lot of hard days 08:46 God doesn’t give you things you can’t handle 09:56 What were you fearful of? 11:15 Forgiveness  12:58 How do you talk to your kids? 15:23 Growing up together with your child 17:00 Let your kids speak and thrive  21:43 Loving myself for the first time 24:22 Can you still love yourself on a sh*tty day? 28:31 Faith and religion 33:07 How much to give and keep for yourself 37:09 Toxic positivity 41:00 Share your emotions in a safe place 44:00 Learning how to use your voice 45:53 I no longer care what people think 47:15 Choosing not to show my vulnerability 53:55 How to teach children about the world outside social media 55:58 Expressing opinions and virality 57:53 So You Think You Can Dance 59:34 Being a judge at SYTYCD 01:01:21 Are you ready to move forward? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices