Ever find yourself wondering if your child's behavior is normal? Some personality types don’t respond to traditional parenting. This could be why you are feeling stressed and uncertain how to handle their sibling rivalry, explosive tantrums, disorganization, picky eating, impulsivity, sleep problems, low empathy, high sensitivity or fill in the blank.  Maybe you and your partner don’t feel as close as you once did. Due to all the crazy, you may have lost sight of the connection that brought you together? Are you struggling to identify the God given strengths in your child, connect with your child and be on the same page with your partner? Are you praying for a way to finally relax and feel assured that you are parenting your child in a way that will bring out the best in them?   I understand the journey and have asked these very questions many many many times myself. Both my kids fall outside of the norm. My son is a highly sensitive feeler who broke his arm in band and cross country…not once, but twice! I bet you didn’t realize that band and cross country could be hazardous! He struggled with sensory processing disorder, OCD, anxiety and ADHD. My daughter, on the other hand, is a highly logical thinker, who enjoyed decapitating her American Girl dolls, riding a scooter through the neighborhood with a live chicken on the handlebars and refusing to eat anything unless it was a Cheezit, goldfish or chicken nugget. She struggled with low empathy, low grades and ADHD. I am not normal either, which you will discover if you Google “mom embarrasses son by dancing in a blizzard, on the Interstate to the Backstreet Boys.” If you are familiar with the Myers Briggs system I am an ENFJ and if the Enneagram is your jam, I am a type 1 to 1 type 4 wing 3.  Although I do hold a Master’s degree in education and work as a team building coach, these credentials did not help when it came to managing my own family team and parenting my daughter who is opposite of me in every way and nothing like anyone else in the family. It felt as though she had been beamed down to us from another planet. This is why my understanding extends to parents in blended and adoptive families, where the process of getting to know your new child can be its own unique challenge and feel anything but normal!   There was no user manual for my daughter. Every parenting book I picked up didn’t seem to fit. By the time she was five years old, I felt like I was yelling at her more than I was being positive. She was a tornado of orneryness, very blunt with her negative opinions and she didn’t know how to show appreciation or affection. When I looked at her, all I could see were her weaknesses and I was worried that if I didn’t turn things around and figure out how to reframe the way I saw her, I was going to ruin our relationship and damage her self-esteem. To make matters worse, my son was super easy to understand and parent. She was already commenting on how he was the good kid and she was the bad kid. As I was using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram in my career as a team building coach and educator, I realized these tools could be powerful for helping family teams.  I set out to study child personality patterns and began crafting a best-selling book called "Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens." Its packed with helpful tools, discipline techniques, and over two hundred real-life case studies from families sharing their unique stories about children of all sixteen personality types. To my surprise, my not so normal kids fell into normalized categories. As it turns out, they were acting perfectly normal for their personality types.  I've also developed a brain mapping system that is equal to a QEEG map of the brain. If you have ever wanted to take a peek into your child’s head to understand why on earth they just threw a perfectly delicious ice cream cone up against the wall, now you can!  With each family mem