10 BDSM SKILLS THAT CAN INFORM ALL RELATIONSHIPS : 03 - LISTEN FOR THE DESIRE UNDERNEATH THE DESIRE All people are lying all the time. Men lie. Women lie. In my observation, women like more than men and better than men. Why do we lie? We lie to get our way. We lie to avoid punishment. We lie in order to look good and avoid looking bad. I think women have a fourth reason for lying, which I think is their most common reason for lying.  I discuss that reason in this talk. ************************* To be a great Dom, get underneath the desires of your submissive.  Dig deeper.  Trace the origin of their desire.  Track down what is underneath the desire. Want to see your submissive more deeply. Create a permission field where they might feel welcomed to reveal themselves more deeply. ************************* This same seeing is badly needed in vanilla man-woman relationships. In great relationships, the two people remain interested in seeing each other.  They don’t accept surface level answers from each other.  They dig.  They want to know the other. To be a stand for wanting more for our partner, first we have to have the desire to see them more deeply. — Om Rupani OmRupani.org IN-PERSON TRAININGS: Tantra meets BDSM - 6 Day Retreat in Tulum, Mexico The Modern Priestess Of Eros - Practitioner Training ONLINE WORKSHOPS: What Men Want : A Course For Women Creating The Dominant Man BDSM Fundamentals & Scene Play Training www.OmRupani.org