Dr. Rob and Tami answer a listener's question who feels very stuck and hopeless. She feels trapped because it seems the aggression in sex with her addict is getting worse and worse. He has intense sexual fantasies throughout the day and wants to keep acting out with them. Is there hope for someone like this?   TAKEAWAYS: [:35] I have performance anxiety. I can’t seem to perform now that I’m sober. [2:20] Intimacy is scary. How do you talk about your performance anxiety? [4:45] My SA husband has relapsed and then slipped. He doesn’t want to share with me going forward because he doesn’t want me to get angry. Are my requests legit? [8:00] Early in recovery, it’s going to be hard. Your addict will make mistakes. [14:10] What resources are available to me? I’m super overwhelmed. [26:15] He manipulates me with sex. I hate it. And he doesn’t have a CSAT. What should I do? [28:55] How do you say no to this person? If you can’t, then you need to get support.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss