Dr. Rob and Tami answer a heavy question from a listener about whether she should be concerned that her husband is around their children after he revealed some of his porn preferences. Dr. Rob weighs in on his thoughts and what you should do when you find out your addict has been watching very disturbing and “not normal” porn.   TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My husband suffers from depression and it’s starting to drag me down. How can I better support myself and him? [3:30] Dr. Rob shares a self-assessment to confirm whether your husband has depression. [8:30] How concerned should I be that my husband used to watch incest porn? [11:15] Dr. Rob is concerned about this type of porn. He explains why. [16:15] My SA still has denial and non-acceptance about his actions even after 30-plus months. Will it ever get better? [18:20] It sounds to Tami that he’s a bit of a “dry drunk.” He’s quit the bad actions but is still an addict. [23:20] Betrayed partners have such a hard time really understanding why an addict would do what they do because they themselves could never do what they’ve done. [26:20] My wife and I are exhausted from this recovery process. Why is being honest and transparent so difficult? [31:35] It’s important to have a better conflict management plan together. Tami offers some resources to help get back on track.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss