Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from someone who is struggling to be intimate with their life-long partner. As an addict, it is so much easier to act out and live in a fantasy than live in reality. The reality is, we often do not know how to connect and build real relationships when we’re in active addiction. Dr. Rob and Tami share how you can break this toxic cycle and build true and meaningful relationships now that you’re sober.    TAKEAWAYS: [0:25] How do I get over cravings as a chemsex addict? [5:20] Schedule and accountability are key in this situation.  [6:25] How long will these restrictions from my betrayed spouse last?  [13:35] I have such a hard time being intimate with my partner of 8 years. It was easier to act out. Why is that? [16:40] Sex addicts seek intensity when what they truly want is intimacy. [19:25] Intimacy is about being open and vulnerable, not about having the best body or biggest private part.  [22:00] What’s the difference between a relapse vs. a slip? [28:55] What does it look like to be on a journey of recovery?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss