Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a listener who is struggling to be a more empathetic person to their partner. Despite his best efforts, he can’t seem to be present and emotionally available for her. Is this because he has ADHD? Is he just broken? How can he fix this? Dr. Rob and Tami offer a more detailed insight into what might actually be going on.   TAKEAWAYS: [:25] How do I build trust with myself again to pick better after dating a sex addict? [2:35] Date them long enough to see if they have the ability to self-reflect. [7:15] My empathy is broken. How do I change? [11:45] I found out my same-sex partner has been acting out with the opposite sex. Is it because her needs just aren’t being met or is this addiction? [18:25] I think I’m addicted to him, but I’ve read that you can’t be addicted to a person. How do you explain this? [20:15] What are sex addicts actually addicted to? [28:15] Is there a rough draft of what healthy boundaries look like? [30:15] Dr. Rob offers some examples of what a boundary would look like with an addict.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss