Yea, I realize that looks like this is an episode about the Capital of Idaho… it’s not, not even a little bit. But if I just wrote ‘Bring the Boys’ you would might miss the whole Old School Rap theme that Shira makes us do.  Anyway, in this episode Shira and Gavin (who refers to himself in the third person apparently) talk about Gavin dealing with Polyamory Rookie BS.  Shira explains how the Transient has now Transcended to being Trans.  Then we open up the mail bag and Shira answers your...

Gavin and Shira sit down and talk about the ORE, which stands for Old Relationship Energy, and may or may not be something that Shira completely made up.  They also talk about NRE, but more than talking about the energy, they talk about the science and chemicals involved, and what drives humans to act the way they do.  Before they get into that Gavin announces he’s back on the polyamorous market, and Shira talks about having guilt just for being Shira B. Katz.

Here we go, here we go, here we go again. Barry, what’s my weakness? (Mail!) Ok, then. Chillin’, chillin’, mindin’ my business. I checked my mail and I couldn’t believe this. I swear; I stared, Gavin’s my witness, the mailbox had it goin’ on with somethin’ kinda wicked, wicked – I had to click it. I’m not shy so I podcast the business. The mailbox is packed and it’s stacked (‘specially in the back). D Barry wanted to thank a lover for mail like that. Can S Barry get some love with that...

Gavin and Shira talk about threesomes of the sexy variety (not the relationshipy vee/triad variety) in this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory. Before diving into the topic, Shira and Gavin talk a bit about enjoying each other’s other partners and invite the listeners to improve upon their theme music. Then diving into the subject of threesomes, the Katz talk about protection, preparation, negotiation and execution of awesomely sexy threesomes and share a few stories about their own awesome (and...

PEDESTRIANS! We regulate any drama in polyamory and we’re damn good too. But you can’t be any geek off the street, gotta be handy with the advice if you know what I mean; earn your keep. Pedestrians! Mount up! It was a clear black night, a clear white moon. Shira B was on the streets trying to consume some email for the eve so she can help some punks. Gavin rollin’ his eyes, chillin’ all alone. Shira clicks a link from a Barry named Lewis. This Barry’s gots  problems so she says “Let’s do...

Shira and Gavin are talkin’ casual sex.  No, not how to get some casual sex, but where it fits into polyamory, and their own personal FEELINGS on the matter.  Before that Gavin talks about his Poly Speed Dating adventure followed up with his own regular dating adventure(!!).  Shira discusses her own misadventures in dating and analysis paralysis.   Shira also introduces a new segment to Pedestrian Polyamory, which Gavin of course adores… er I mean abhors.   3

Gavin is back in the captain’s seat in this episode of POSTULANT Polyamory. Gavin continues his quest to welcome the newbs. First, Shira and Gavin make a BIG announcement about the show! Pedestrian Polyamory will be airing a pilot show on Sirius Radio’s Playboy Channel: Spice 103 on Friday, March 16th. After the big announcement, Shira and Gavin break down dating for newbs: What questions should you ask on a first date? Where should you go? How do you prepare? Listen to find out! 3

With so much drama in PP16, it’s kinda hard being a K A T to the Z.  But somehow, someway, we gotta keep on answering listener mail like every single day. May we answer a little mail for the B’s and make a few jokes as we breeze through two in the morning and the podcast’s still goin’. Okay. That was ridiculous. Listen in as Shira and Gavin answer some mail received after Depressisode 16. They cover topics from dating, to depression, to dealing with reluctant partners. 3

Shira steps out on Gavin and talks about polyamory with another man – Pepper Mint! Shira welcomes Pepper Mint back for his second interview with Pedestrian Polyamory. Shira and Pepper discuss the finer points of secondary relationships, including the difference between low-attachment and low-involvement relationships, the elusive poly folk who are down to f**k, and what really counts as ‘polyamory’. Before the interview starts you can enjoy the second installment of Hep Katz Sonnet Corner...

Shira and Gavin go off the rails in this episode and start talking buttsex with boys!  Shira gives you the low-down on prostate health and pleasure, getting into all the details on how to prepare for anal play, what’s you can do, and what her favorite moves are. Before bringing the bottom’s up, Shira and Gavin address some standing issues from the previous show including: What’s a PINO, do they exist? Is Gavin a cuckhold? Is Shira an unempathetic whore? Listen to find out! 3

Rules and boundaries! So much fun, right? In this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory Gavin and Shira talk about Gavin’s recent struggles with jealousy before charging into a discussion on rules, boundaries, and how they effect polyamorous relationships. It seems like most people in non-monogamous prescribe to a set of rules in their relationship, but could there be a better way? Get some tips on when the Katz’ think that rules are good and when they are time-bombs. Resources:...

In this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory, we talk about the recent media hype surrounding Newt Gingrich and open marriage. This episode is slightly more political and topical than usual, so we fully accept all of the hate-mail that will transpire as a result. That said! Before we get into the nitty gritty with Mr. Grinch, Gavin got a SONNET from a listener which we read in our new segment – HepKatz Sonnet Corner. Then.. big news about Gavin’s dating life! Listen to hear more 3

In this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory, Shira and Gavin talk about all sorts of great web sites and techie tools that poly folk can use to improve their lives. You’ll find suggestions for scheduling and coordination tools, dating sites, and apps and tools to improve your sexytimes. How do you turn sex into data geekery? How do you coordinate all your sweetie’s schedules? How do you get down and dirty with a sweetie that you can barely ever see in person? You’re the pedestrian, we got the...

Gavin and Shira hit the mailbag to help keep the listeners pedestrian. First, Gavin talks about his progress on his 257 step patented plan to asking a girl out on a date. Shira discusses her new toy from bndpodcast.com and shares why she think it might be her new favorite. On to listener mail; the Katz Crew answers questions from ‘When do I come out to my date?’ to ‘How does a poly girl find a date who doesn’t just think she is an easy lay?”. Find out their answers to these questions and many...

Shira and Gavin talk about breaking up.. don’t worry, not with each other. Not yet, anyways. Whether you’ve gone against Shira’s advice and broken some hearts, or if you have a broken heart and want to get over it, give this show a listen because Shira talks about what different types of poly break-ups look like and how to cope with them whether you’re a breaker upper, break uppee or an innocent bystander. Before getting into that incredibly uplifting topic, Shira and Gavin talk about how...

In this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory the Katz’ are all business. Wrapping up 2011, Shira and Gavin discuss their big plans and resolutions for the new year. This episode is a shortie and comes before a holiday break.. but the Katz will be back in the first week of January! Until then, Happy Holidays and Merry New Year! 3

Gavin is taking a stand in this episode of POSTULANT Polyamory. It’s time to welcome the newbs.. apparently. First, Shira talks about dating a swinger and Gavin talks about going to a kinky BDSM rope party and learning about Japanese rope bondage and other fun knotty origami ropey things. Then s**t gets basic: What is polyamory? Who is polyamorous and who isn’t? How do you prepare yourself for entering the world of polyamory? Where do you find a community of poly peeps to get you started? How...

Shira is all the way out of the closet and has been for a long time.. and now Gavin is too! Hear the story of Gavin coming out to his folks. Before that, Shira talks about Poly Speed Dating and Gavin eludes to a big cool thing that might be happening for Pedestrian Polyamory but SHHH! It’s a secret. Are Shira and Gavin having sex on camera?! Did Gavin’s family disown him? Learn about the coming out bro-high-five! If you come out as non-monogamous to your friends, are they going to think...

Shira interviews Franklin Veaux, a poly based activist who describes himself as a tattooed, polyamorous, kinky transhumanist. Before that, Gavin and Shira discuss their trip to Portland and the continuation of the dreaded DROUGHT. So what’s a transhumanist? How does a poly relationship sans hierarchy work? How do I make sex toys at home? Where do I go find awesome sex games online? What about the singularity?! Stick around as Shira asks Franklin Veaux all this and more!

Hey, look! Shira found a virgin to interview, but before that starts listen as Shira and Gavin discuss some hate mail they received. Find out where the Katz’ stand on the issue of dating people with STI’s and figure out what is causing the SEX DROUGHT.  (One hint, parents: co-sleeping!) Then off to virgin land. How does one handle themselves before they have the labels of straight, gay, monogamous, or polyamorous? What can we do to facilitate our virginal friend?

Today, boys and girls, Shira B. Katz cites her sources and teaches you all about the ins and outs of herpes and HPV but first Gavin shares his first public dancing experience and Shira tells us about meeting the inspirational and infamous Kapers from Sex is Fun. Find out why Gavin wants a bowl full of herpes. Listen to Shira whimper about all the lovely, amazing, STI riddled people she’s met recently. What will the Katz’ do to stay safe from STI’s but still make the most of the connections...

Do you judge yourself based on your partner’s partners? If you’re A=B and C=B does A=C in the land of polyamory? Shira and Gavin discuss their experiences with the Polyamorous Transitive Property Fallacy but first they share some thoughts on personal friends listening to the show, try to figure out how they ended up on an astrology website, and take a bit more time to talk about dick. Shira talks about her self-image issues after being with a guy who had only been with BBW’s prior to her....

It’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean… right? Shira calls b******t! Listen to Shira and Gavin talk about why penis size most certainly matters, but first Gavin talks about his first cuddle-pile and Shira talks about meeting Boris and Doris on her trip to Texas. (Check their show out: The Boris and Doris Podcast!) Shira cites her sources and delves into some studies that gives some facts on the average lengths and girths of the human penis. And guess who’s a size queen?...

Before getting to the listener mail, Shira and Gavin talk about Gavin’s introduction to the SF Bay poly community and Shira takes a vow of travel-based celibacy. Listeners ask: What’s the difference between open relationships and polyamory and polyfidelity? What’s in this for Gavin? Why does Shira have a filthy whore mouth? Do the Katz have religious guilt? How do you flirt with someone when their partner is around? Is Shira using up all her sex on other people? Listen as the Katz Crew...

Shira sits down with the second-generation polyamorous Pepper Mint. Pepper is a polyamorous activist and educator who is a staple in the San Francisco Bay Area polyamorous community. In this interview they discuss how Pepper’s upbringing with non-monogamous parents shaped his views on relationships, his struggles with dating in college at MIT, his goals of bringing Polyamorous people together, tips on making long-term relationships (and short-term) with multiple partners work, and Shira also...