We want them there. It won't be the same, plus it's awful to have to tell Grandma that they didn't want to come. But they didn't and now there's contention.  Nobody wins in this situation, but it doesn't have to be like this. Today I'll walk you through other options, offer you better understanding around this common phenomenon, and generally help make the holidays a little better when it comes to herding our families everywhere.  To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, or learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com