Today I am sitting down with Sofia Franklyn—one of my most requested guests of all time! Sofia and I discuss everything in this interview including childhood traumas, experiencing a public scandal, growing up with a single mom, abandonment issues, how she healed, current manifestations, and what’s next on her journey.   Sofia with an F: https://sofiafranklyn.com/pages/sofia-with-an-f-podcast Sofia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sofiafranklyn   Your body, your OUAI! Go to...

It’s February! This month we are talking all things love and relationships. In this solo, I discuss my recent miscarriage and the work that’s brought up, marriage and lifelong relationships, my thoughts on love languages and attachment styles, ghosting, the importance of dating yourself, and manifesting your perfect partner.   Ghia is here for a good time and a long time. For 20% off your first sip, go to drinkghia.com and use code ‘REALITY’ at checkout.   Find your new skincare favorites...

In today's episode, I am joined by Morgan—a Queer Polyamory Mentor and the creator of Chillpolyamory.  She’s been consensually non-monogamous since 2012, and coaching others on their journeys since 2018. We discuss the western narrative surrounding monogamy, exploring polyamory, the negative connotations of jealousy, how Evan and I’s communication has improved since opening our relationship, cheating in polyamory relationships, hierarchal constructions of monogamous relationships, and more! ...

In today's episode, I am joined by Danielle Bayard Jackson a certified friendship coach, PR agency owner, licensed educator, and author. We discuss how lacking friendship education is, making friends in adulthood, losing friends as you grow, how friendships are a need not a want, and working to move past friendship break-ups in a healthy way.   Ghia is here for a good time and a long time. For 20% off your first sip, go to drinkghia.com and use code ‘REALITY’ at checkout.   For up to 16...

In today's episode, I am joined by Tarah Dowling a model, daughter of an addict, former foster child, and creator of the documentary To the Moon and Back. We discuss Tarah’s journey experience during her mom’s active addiction, her time in foster care, how their relationship evolved as showcased in the documentary, and using a compassionate approach to navigating addiction.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis...

Johann Hari—bestselling author Chasing the Scream and Lost Connections—joins me on RFR for the second time to discuss his new book, Stolen Focus. In this phenomenal episode, we discuss the environmental shifts that have caused focus to deteriorate, how to improve your attention, and inspiring collective change.   Shop Stolen Focus: https://stolenfocusbook.com/buy-the-book/   Johann’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johann.hari/   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your...

In this month’s solo episode I answer your questions about babysitting Doja Cat, sex kinks, identity development, my wedding day, new tattoos, navigating tough days, and using routine to maintain your mood.   Mentioned in this week’s episode… - Ep. 120 Pecan Pies, Panties, and Parenting with my Mom, Andrea Arlington - Ep. 121 Asexuality, Kinks, and Sensuality with Ev’Yan Whitney   Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com.   ...

Today I am joined by Scout Sobel. Scout is the founder of Scout’s Agency  a PR agency that gets women as guests on podcasts, the co-host of Okay Sis Podcast  and the host of SCOUT Podcast.    We discuss… - Using your emotions to guide you in balancing mental health and professional goals - Scout’s perspective on how her bipolar originated—the genetic component, recurring dreams, and spiritual traumas - Experiencing the symptoms of sexual trauma without the physical experience - What...

Today I am joined by the sober queen herself—Vanderpump Rules star Lala Kent! We discuss… - Lala’s upbringing—family dynamics, childhood insecurities, bullying, and how this impacted her addiction - The addiction cycle and Lala’s experience navigating it in Hollywood - Navigating the guilt of getting sober without facing the huge consequences many face in active addiction - Turning to a higher power for support when challenges arise - What it’s like to be vulnerable on such a huge scale ...

In today’s solo episode I reflect on my younger self and how she helped me become the woman I am today. I discuss coming home to my true self in the past year, going to jail 11 years ago, my time in active addiction, and subconscious belief systems.     Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com.   For a 30 day free trial of Dipsea’s wellness sessions, sensual bedtime stories, and audio soundscapes head to...

In today’s episode I’m joined by my husband, Evan Haines. Evan is not only the co-founder of Oro House but now an author of Can America Recover: Reimagining the Drug Problem.   We discuss… - How Evan’s early sobriety journey led him to found Oro House - Why non-traditional 12 step treatment can be extremely effective for addiction and what makes Oro’s method unique - What causes mental health treatment providers to have negative feelings towards their patients struggling with addiction ...

In today’s episode I’m joined by Ev’Yan Whitney—a sexuality doula, writer, facilitator, and sensualist.   We discuss… - What led Ev’Yan to the work they are doing now—origins in purity culture, childhood sexual exploration, and their journey to sexual healing and liberation - How the same messaging can be received in both a toxically sex positive household and in homes where sexuality isn’t explored and encouraged - Unpacking asexuality as an identity and common pieces of misinformation ...

In today’s episode I’m joined by my Mom—Andrea Arlington to dive into challenging family dynamics during the holiday season.   We discuss… - Setting boundaries with parents in active addiction - Relapsing during the holidays—common causes and supporting a loved one using again - Having a loved one come home for the holidays while in early recovery or rehab - Being codependent vs. loving someone through their journey   Mentioned in the episode… - Ep. 110 with Andrea Arlington - ...

In today’s episode I’m joined by Tara Bixby, LPC a therapist, activist, and anxiety coach working to change the mental health narrative.   We discuss… - Tara’s journey from cosmetologist, to 911 dispatcher, to clinician in an all male prison, to an anxiety coach and therapist - The prevalence of suicide in the United States and why we need to normalize mental health challenges - How everyone is susceptible to mental health challenges - The impact of the nervous system on our mental...

In honor of the upcoming holiday season and November being Suicide Survivor’s Month I answer your questions on natural remedies for depression, spiritual bypassing, pharmaceutical medications for mental health, Evan’s advice on supporting someone through suicidal depression, if depression is connected to living truthfully, and the physical component of mental health.   Mentioned in this week’s episode… - Lost Connections by Johann Hari - Ep. 103 Our Brains Aren’t Broken, Our Society Is...

In this week's episode I am joined by my girlfriend, Kris! Y'all have been asking for this podcast to happen and I finally begged enough to make it happen. I will preface this episode by saying that Kris is a very introverted and private person with an avoidant attachment style, so to say that doing this was a challenge for her would be an understatement. While she is completely fine being pictured on social media, Kris coming on the podcast felt super daunting to her. I asked her multiple...

Today I am joined by Angelika Alana a love, sex, and relationship coach specializing in body based healing for spiritual women and gender non-conforming people. We dive into sexual exploration, sitting in discomfort rather diving into desires, how to establish safety in your nervous system, communicating our sexual needs in an effective way, and being on the same team as your partner.   Connect with Angelika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelikaalana/   Today’s episode is...

In this week's episode of Recovering From Reality, I am joined by my wonderful partner, Evan Haines. We take a deep dive into our relationships and how we came to the decision to open up our marriage after 10 years of monogamy. We are answering your questions from the ask me anything I posted a few weeks ago and we cover a range of topics like how did we decide to become ethically non-monogamous, how we told our children, what our sex life looks like now and how we handle feelings of...

Hi family. Welcome home to Recovering From Reality. In the first episode of this new season, I dive into why I took a step back from the podcast, stepping into my sexuality, navigating this new season in my marriage, and what’s coming on the podcast.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can...

After immense contemplation and reflection, I’ve decided to take a step back from the podcast for the time reason. Listen to hear my thought process on this decision...   This episode is brought to you by Beekeeper’s Naturals. Head to beekeepersnaturals.com/reality for 15% off your first order!   This episode is brought to you by Pipette Baby. Visit pipettebaby.com and get 30% off your order with code “REALITY”!   This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens. Go to...

Today I am sitting down with my husband Evan Haines. Evan Haines is a Co-Founder of Alo House, and specializes in admissions, and marketing and business development. An active participant in the recovery world, it felt natural for Evan to transition into the sober living business, and help others obtain and maintain sobriety. In 2010, he and Jared founded Alo House, which, in less than three years, became one of the most successful sober living residences in the area. Evan has a Master’s...

Today I am sitting down with Dr. Will Cole. Dr. Cole is a leading functional-medicine expert, consulting with people around the world via webcam and locally in Pittsburgh. He specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing health programs for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal dysfunctions, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Cole was named one of the top 50 functional-medicine and integrative doctors in the nation and is a...

Today I am sitting down with my Mom, Andrea Arlington. Andrea's journey led her through decades of living with loved ones who suffered with addictive patterns from heroin and alcohol to sex and other substance use disorders, she also suffered with multiple forms of both addictive and co-addictive patterns herself.   When her 3rd marriage failed, she took a hard look at her life, came to understand she would never find inner peace and happiness unless she took a deep dive into her own...

Today I am sitting down for a solo episode where I answer your questions. In this Q+A, I dive into the following topics… - Why I decided to get the Pfizer COVID vaccination and taking a balanced, holistic approach to medical care - How to navigate relationships when you are at different places of self-awareness and growth - My current struggle with my relationship with food and exercise - An update on our adoption journey! - How to deal with comparing yourself to others on social media ...

In today's episode, I am joined by Marianne Williamson. Marianne is a bestselling author, political activist and spiritual thought leader.   For over three decades Marianne has been a leader in spiritual and religiously progressive circles. She is the author of 14 books, four of which have been #1 New York Times best sellers. A quote from the mega best seller A Return to Love, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure…” is...