Men, do you feel like you have to please your woman?  Like it is so difficult to figure out how to make her happy and get the connection that you want?    Women, do you feel like you've been putting in a lot of effort to evolve and you want him to meet you?  Do you feel like you tell him exactly what to do and it still doesn't seem like he gets it?    If you answered yes to these questions, you have an unconscious performance dynamic going on in your relationship and today's podcast episode can help!    We cover:  + The shadow of performance culture + What women are avoiding by telling their men what to do + How "not enough" drives his perpetual efforts to "get it right"  + The alternative to masculine performance (hint: it's not talking about your emotions) + Moving from performance to presence   Learn more about couples coaching and support with Sarah Poet at: https://www.sarahpoet.com/consciousrelating   Men's private coaching can be found at:  https://www.sarahpoet.com/private-coaching-for-men       #masculinity #men #shadow #performanceculture #masculine #sacredmasculine #patriarchy #relationships #consciousrelationships #relationshipcoach #traumainformed #menswork #energy #polarity #masculinefeminine #femininemasculine