Carla Naumburg, PhD is a clinical social worker and the best-selling author of five parenting books. These include her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent; Ready, Set, Breath and Parenting in the Present Moment.. Her latest, which is recently published and the topic of this podcast is How to Stop Freaking Out, the (completely swear-free) middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids. She’s also a wife (making her second appearance on the pod) and the mother of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed: * Everything about her newest book and the philosophy behind it * How she first got into writing * What it takes to research and write a book * The inspiration behind How to Stop Freaking Out * The five different types of freakouts * Why kids freak out * How to model and teach emotional regulation in our kids * An extensive discussion on kids, smart phones and social media Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube. — Where to find Carla Naumburg * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlanaumburg/ * Carla's Website: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/ * Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/ Where to find Adam Fishman * FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/ * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/ — In this episode, we cover: [1:43] Welcome [2:54] How did she start writing? [5:15] Carla’s Childhood [6:43] Her newest book [8:13] Inspiration for How To Stop Freaking Out [10:26] The Process for writing a book [12:42] How a metaphor from her last book didn’t translate to this one [14:58] Teaching middle schoolers [20:29] The types of freakouts [25:44] Why do kids freak out? [30:18] Modeling/teaching emotional regulation [36:04] How do parents navigate freakouts/how do we shrink our buttons? [43:52] Smart phones/social media and kids [50:42] Waiting on phones plan [55:39] The book [56:17] Lightning round — Show references: Carla and Josh on Startup Dad - youtube.com/watch?v=YiaE6ZmaOIQ How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Losing-Your-Kids/dp/1523505427 You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent: How to Practice Self-Compassion and Give Yourself a Break: https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-Parent-Self-Compassion/dp/1523517115 Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family: https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Set-Breathe-Practicing-Mindfulness/dp/1626252904/ Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Present-Moment-Focused-Matters/dp/1937006832/ How to Stop Freaking Out: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Cool When Life Feels Chaotic: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Freaking-Out-Ultimate/dp/1523518243/ Sweet Valley High: https://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Valley-High-138-book-series/dp/B08LGKQMDM Mount Everest: https://www.britannica.com/place/Mount-Everest Oprah: https://www.oprah.com/index.html The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036 Taylor Swift: https://www.taylorswift.com/ Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/ First Phone: A Child's Guide to Digital Responsibility, Safety, and Etiquette by Catherine Pearlman PhD LCSW: https://www.amazon.com/First-Phone-Digital-Responsibility-Etiquette/dp/0593538331 Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner: https://www.amazon.com/Screenwise-Helping-Thrive-Survive-Digital/dp/1629561452/ Caillou: https://en.caillou.com/ Bluey: https://www.bluey.tv/ MacGyver: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088559/ My Fair Lady: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058385/ The Breakfast Club: http