Episode 27: Dating After Divorce
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This week on Talk Sex With Dick, Sex Therapist Dr. Richard Mills talks about sexual desire, sex, a good book, dating after divorce, adult circumcision, and avoiding being catfished. Before diving into questions, I talk about returning to NYC from Los Angeles, how my cat Al is in need of dental surgery to have his teeth removed. I talk about meeting Pamela Gay in 2017 at a restaurant in NYC, who reconnected with me and sent a copy of her page turning memoir, I’m So Glad You’re Here – a story of overcoming the trauma and journey of healing with her father, who struggled with severe mental illness.I discuss Fiona Apple’s recent album release of Fetch the Bolt Cutters, and the new jaw dropping Netflix releases of Hollywood and Caliphate. This weekend I’m hosting a social distancing virtual movie night. Each week my friends select a series of choices. Some of my favorites include: Beaches, Dallas Buyers Club, Steel Magnolias, To Wong Foo Thank You for Everything, and Boys Don’t Cry.  In world news, Benjamin Fredell gave up his dream of being a pro hockey player because he decided to come out as gay, Matt Belanger (a news anchor on 5 Eyewitness News in Minneapolis, Minnesota) suffered major injury in a gay hate crime, while Amazon Prime is questioned for censoring a gay sex scene in God’s Own Country.Below provides a series of questions that I answer, from listeners who’ve written in…The first listener, from the Bronx is feeling horny, but because of the pandemic his sexual appetite goes on unsatisfied.  When he attempts to initiate inviting men over to his home for an afternoon romp, he is turned down. He wonders if there is anything he can do or say to persuade men to come over.The next listener, from Los Angeles recently ended a marriage of 15 years, and wonders what the next move is to get back into the game -- dating after divorce.  He feels dating in today’s world is complicated, and wonders if he still has what it takes to get the ball rolling.The next listener, from Manhattan provides his reaction to Episode 25: Adult Circumcision – and wonders if he should consider circumcision as an option.  He feels frustrated and overwhelmed in his dating life, as while the women he dates say they don’t care that he’s uncut, however, their reaction speaks louder than words.Finally, a listener from Charlotte has been talking with a guy on Grindr but concerned as the man he’s been talking to wants to meet in real life, however, he hasn’t been completely forthcoming – catfishing.  The pictures he’s sent are from a time when he was thinner, in better shape, and about five years younger.  He’s concerned that if and when they meet for a social distancing date that he will experience rejection.Music for today’s episode is brought to you by Chauncey Dandridge (AKA DJ Chauncey D) and Van Hechter  “53 Christopher Street” available on Spotify.If you have a burning question or would like to be a guest on the podcast Contact Us!