In this episode of the Teenage Kicks podcast I talk to psychologist and therapist Dr Tara Porter about why parent/teen relationships are so fraught with misunderstandings, and what to do about it. Specifically, Tara talks about why teenagers think their parents don't understand them - her book, You Don't Understand Me*, is aimed at teenage girls, to help them navigate these tricky years, as well as giving insights into what their daughters are experiencing. *Affiliate link. We also talk about university - how to choose the best one for you, and why uni isn't necessarily the best choice. We cover parental anxiety and the pressure it can put on teenagers, and how we can encourage our kids to follow the best path for them, rather than following the crowd. Who is Dr Tara Porter? Tara Porter is a Clinical Psychologist and writer working in north-west London. ​She draws on decades of experience to provide therapy to adolescents and adults in person and online. She uses her in-depth knowledge of the teenage mindset to support parents. ​Tara offers a variety of talks and workshops with pupils, staff and parents thinking about improving mental health. ​She writes and speaks regularly in the mainstream media about mental health. Find out more at taraporterpsychologist.com. More teenage parenting from Helen Wills: Helen wills is a teen mental health podcaster and blogger at Actually Mummy, a resource for midlife parents of teens. Thank you for listening! Subscribe to the Teenage Kicks podcast to hear new episodes. If you have a suggestion for the podcast please email [email protected]. There are already stories from fabulous guests about difficult things that happened to them as teenagers - including losing a parent, becoming a young carer, and being hospitalised with mental health problems - and how they overcame things to move on with their lives. You can find more from Helen Wills on parenting teenagers on Instagram and Twitter @iamhelenwills. For information on your data privacy please visit Podcast.co. Please note that Helen Wills is not a medical expert, and nothing in the podcast should be taken as medical advice. If you're worried about yourself or a teenager, please seek support from a medical professional. Podcast produced by James Ede at Be Heard production.