“He does provide a platform for some dissenting options on important topics, and does it with respect and kindness (which is a breath of fresh air in today’s discourse.) However, despite all the content I found nothing in his message beyond maintaining the status quo and being kind about it. Disagreeing well is a luxury for those whose lives are benefiting from the status quo. For those whose lives are being ruined, disagreement needs to yield to actual UNBIASED science and the discovery of fact.
Take the episode on contempt for example. Yes contempt is bad for the giver and receiver. Yes you should avoid expressing contempt toward others. Do we really need an expert to tell us that? I’d love to have heard Gottman talk about what to do when you’re on the receiving end of someone else’s contempt? How do you skillfully and constructively extract your participation from a toxic dynamic? Or what about a relationship where listening is never reciprocal? Do those who refuse to listen (while claiming that they’re listening) still deserve an audience?
These are the types of questions that I rarely hear from those with privilege and social power shielding them from the wide array of systemic biases in this country. I expected a deeper dive and a new, innovative and balanced perspective. What I got was just another regurgitation of the status quo.”
Sheclimber7 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
09/07/18