You know that feeling when you're out in the world, and you feel safe? You know what I mean, right? It's that feeling that lets you breathe a little easier, and allows you to be yourself and do whatever you want—the ones that make you feel like there's no way out.   And it's also that same feeling when you're in bed with your partner and do the intense moments the way you desire. We all want this kind of safety and power in our lives. But how often do we get it? How often do we ever feel truly safe?   In today’s episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Andre Lazarus. Andre is a Certified Intimacy, Sex, and Relationship Guide, Trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 8+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. As a multisexual being experienced in Consensual Non-Monogamous dynamics, Andre’s unique approach to sexuality, sensuality and the bond people share make him a thought leader and knowledgeable practitioner. Andre is a Certified Sex and Relationship Coach through the Somatica Institute based out of San Francisco, CA, and specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more.    Tune in to this episode as Andre unravels how to move forward from trauma so that you can get to your desires and that safe place as well! We'll be talking about what it takes to create a safe space for yourself during these intimate moments—and how to get them without having to sacrifice who YOU are.  Highlights:   (03:55) Andre’s Story  (10:24) How Andre developed a level of attunement in his own being (14:21) The idea of older women going after what they want (16:09) What do female clients come to Andre for? (23:20) Allowing ourselves to follow our desires (24:49)  Realizing the power that we hold on intense and intimate moments (31:49) Andre’s traumatic experiences + Becoming trauma-informed (37:09) How does taking people into the place where the trauma occurred and recreating it help them towards healing? (41:20) What is Andre working on these days? Links:   Connect with Andre:    Website: Coming Closer with Andre Lazarus Instagram: Coming Closer with Andre (@comingcloserwithandre) • Instagram photos and videos Deborah’s Links:   Send your sex and relationship questions to [email protected] For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: [email protected] Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter