Because I was successful as a psychotherapist and marriage counselor, i.e. my couples got better, I held to the belief that any marriage can be fixed if the partners really want to fix it. That’s what I said on Oprah. That’s what I said on CNN. Thus, it was a shock to discover that my own marriage was so troubled that nothing I said or did helped even though my husband and I loved each other in many ways. We couldn’t cooperate to buy furniture. Our dining room table was piled so high with papers that we never ate at it.