Having a baby changes you and my friend Ali Velez was no exception. But hearing about her struggles AND joys of motherhood has definitely changed ME. It's changed how I speak to my friends that our new mothers and how I support them. This episode is a behavior changer and it's stuck with me--I hope it sticks with you. Find all things Ali at www.themamafiles.com.  Or follow her writing on Buzzfeed. And follow her on Twitter @MeAliVelez Subscribe to this podcast here on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dear-mattie-show/id902469568?mt=2 www.dearmattieshow.com Twitter: @themattmarr Listen to Mattie’s other podcast TV TEA TIME HERE: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tv-tea-time-with-mattie-and-jake/id1211496705?mt=2 Watch the show on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/talktomattmarr Our Recap Site: http://www.tvteatime.com TV Tea Time Twitter: @jakeandmattie Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/theMattMarr