Grace is joined this week by broadcaster and host of the Flop Culture podcast, Fionnuala Jay! Fionnuala and Grace chat about the differences between sex education today and when we were young, the rise of far-right fear-mongering around sex education, the myth that Grace is bringing around a suitcase of sex toys to schools, realising you've slept with your new partner's brother, the stress of keeping a secret, coping when your partner's mental health issues are affecting your sex life, thinking about your needs while also being empathetic towards your partner, the stigma around putting ourselves first and setting boundaries as women, having less cruel break-ups, the resentment and anger that can simmer under people-pleasing, why we need government-funded rage rooms...and lots more! As Grace flagged in the intro to this ep, there are some references to mental health and depression. You can contact Samaritans for support on 116 123 or click on this link to see details for various mental health services on the HSE website. There is also a brief mention of a type of emotional abuse - you can use the services above or also contact Women's Aid at www.womensaid.ie or on 1800 341 900 and Men's Aid at www.mensaid.ie or on 01 554 3811. This episode is sponsored by PlayBlue, Ireland's favourite adult store. Ireland’s favourite adult store. Find out more at https://playblue.ie/ Grace Alice Ó Sé is a sex and intimacy specialist and author from Kerry, Ireland. Grace's aim is to prevent people suffering in silence with sexual and intimacy issues, as she believes everyone deserves a life filled with joy, pleasure and connection. She offers 1-1 coaching sessions to individuals, couples coaching, workshops, courses, and delivers sex positive education for adults through her extensive work in the media (including this podcast!). If you would like to work with Grace or learn more, you can find her at gracealice.com or on Instagram under @grace_alice_oshea.  This is a HeadStuff podcast produced by Hilary Barry. Artwork by Matt Mahon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices