This episode is HOT! We loved to talk about desire and pleasure and we know you'll get a lot from this one. If you're interested to work with Neil or Jamie in groups or 1:1 click to connect with us. Enjoy us talking about: Losing respect for people who love us as a result of low self-esteem The power of someone believing in you Receiving love, praise and pleasure Design flaw no1. We de-value availability and value scarcity. We take things for granted. We get hooked on mixed message people! Practicing letting in feedback Being embarrassed about our desires Practicing saying "You're welcome" and owning our work Receiving sexual pleasure as a choice - taking it in turns to wash each others feet with eye contact Neil's Birthday experience of receiving How much noise do we make - is this manipulation? Playing with shadows - Caring Kink - eroticising being punished Slowing down and building trust before rushing to kink Neil shares how he nearly died by rushing in! Maintaining erotic energy in long term relationships (Esther Perell - Mating In Captivity) How much to share, how boundaries begin with our own brain and mouth Using attunement to discern projection from truth Design flaw of humans no2. When we need our wits about us are usually the times when its the hardest Need vs Longing - using NVC effectively Desire is the root of suffering - only when its overly attached to outcome Embracing boredom - Feeling fulfilled in ourselves Chocolate Mouse as a magical substance ...And so much more! Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2024 In this podcast, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Jamie Catto (⁠⁠⁠⁠Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and⁠⁠⁠⁠ Neil Morbey ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.  If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠ and [email protected]