Where is the line between healthy support and co-dependence? Can we reasonably put restrictions on our partner's behaviour? Can we expect our partners to care for us, including our own 'inner children'? How do we become a team and work together well? These are some of the questions we explore in this episode of the podcast (in rough order, so you can skip through and find them) - Dangers of labels and diagnosis - Wise Kind Adult vs Triggered Child - Taking time outs in difficult conversations, with a clear re-connection time - The power of eye contact and touch - Valuing vulnerability and empathy - Three key questions to bring us back into our Wise Kind Adult (Fear, Desire, Love) - Supporting each other's inner children - Boundaries as part of care and love (halfway through podcast) - The role of anger - Trust, dependence and support - Agreements and Restrictions - Traumatsing vs discomfort - Protecting our partners like a beast - Promoting safety and communicating discomforts isn't weak Things and people we referenced in the podcast Esther Peral: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Esther_Perel Stan Tatkin: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stan_Tatkin The Yes Brain Book: https://drdansiegel.com/book/the-yes-brain/ Jamie's Work: https://www.jamiecatto.com/ Neil's 8-Week Online Course: Building Secure Attachments: https://www.positively-mindful.com/groups.html Neil's blog about re-parenting: https://www.positively-mindful.com/blog/reschooling-and-reparenting-heal-and-train-yourself-like-a-kitten