# Ernie Not wanting to incarnate into other peoples dysfunction Do I want to heal people from their brokenness so that I can identify with them? VS Am I willing to identify with people in their brokenness so that God can heal us # Robby Jesus, how do I grow closer to You in such a way that Your Spirit most deeply shapes what I want and what I pursue? A common tension -- between pursuing the mission and caring for the members -- reflects the feelings among my own family that I “don’t care about them.” The most important question for me is “What does Jesus want?” My focus tends to then be on how *I* can pursue what *I* imagine He wants. However this overlooks the reality that the first thing He wants from me is intimacy with me. # Reframing Offense"Being versus Feeling Annoyed" Objective analysis (of their wrong) Self-awareness (of my "blaming" thought cycles) Emotional introspection (of the anger/frustration behind those cycles) Humble recognition (that my issues intersect with theirs) Conscious identification (that we both need the same grace)