"Productive Vulnerability" as the narrative protocol to both unmask our own self-deception and reveal the power of Christ. This is the redemptive alternative to either withdrawal or control(as a way to cope with the dysphoria from encountering our mutual brokenness). Withdrawal and control can be effective in reducing short-term pain,but fail to confront the underlying brokennessand are thus toxic to the authenticity required for healthy long-term relationships. See also: Faith in two syllables  Axiom 1.  We are all broken Axiom 2. Christ is the cure Childing -> Adulting -> Christing (like Jesus)