Summary In this episode, Ed Coambs, a financial planner, and therapist, discusses the challenges couples face in managing money and planning for retirement. He shares his personal journey from being a firefighter to becoming a financial planner and therapist. Ed emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own relationship with money and how it impacts relationships. He introduces the concept of financial intimacy and explains how it can help couples navigate the complexities of retirement planning. Ed also highlights the role of attachment theory in understanding couples' dynamics around money. In this conversation, Ed and I discuss the challenges couples face when transitioning from work to retirement and how financial therapy can help. He emphasises the importance of creating a safe space for vulnerability and open communication. He also explores the influence of childhood experiences on money management and the challenge of spending money in retirement. Our conversation highlights the need for balance in money management and the role of financial therapy in helping couples live a happy and fulfilling retirement. Takeaways Understanding one's own relationship with money is crucial for successful financial planning and healthy relationships. Couples often have different expectations and visions for retirement, which can lead to conflicts and challenges. Financial intimacy, where both partners are actively involved in financial decision-making and have open and honest conversations about money, is essential for a harmonious retirement. Attachment theory can provide insights into individuals' behaviours and attitudes towards money and relationships. Couples often struggle to transition from work to retirement and may find it difficult to let go and enjoy the fruits of their labour. Creating a safe space for vulnerability and open communication is crucial for couples to navigate retirement successfully. Childhood experiences play a significant role in shaping individuals' attitudes and behaviours towards money. Spending money in retirement can be a psychological challenge, and finding a balance between spending and saving is essential. Financial therapy can help couples address their money-related issues and create a healthy and fulfilling retirement. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 06:15 The Journey to Financial Therapy 10:35 The Healthy Love and Money Way 23:34 The Importance of Financial Intimacy 28:00 The Struggle to Transition from Work to Retirement 32:38 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability 35:12 The Influence of Childhood Experiences on Money 38:18 The Challenge of Spending Money in Retirement 44:07 The Importance of Balance in Money Management 51:08 The Role of Financial Therapy in Retirement Episode Links & Resources Go see Ed’s Website Buy Ed’s book The Healthy Love and Money Way Listen to Ed’s Healthy Love and Money Podcast Check out Ed’s Online Courses for Couples Connect with Ed on LinkedIn Connect with Ed on X WealthGPS – Lifestyle Financial Planning by TFP Download My FREE Retirement Toolkit Subscribe to my Super Sunday Retirement Roundup Newsletter