In this podcast episode, Ali Hendry and I delve into the subject of sex and menopause. We talk about the natural shifts that happen during menopause, like the ups and downs in estrogen levels and how they impact different facets of health, including mood, sleep, and bone density. Ali highlights the significance of embracing menopause with curiosity and an open mind, instead of treating it as a medical issue that needs to be fixed. We also tackle common worries about intimacy during menopause, such as variations in desire, lubrication, and body scent, and we advocate for a positive and proactive approach to these changes. 0:00 Intro Approaching Menopause with Curiosity (00:01:57) Discussion of the ages for perimenopause and menopause, the difficulty in measuring menopause, and the impact of estrogen changes. Symptoms and Changes of Menopause (00:03:32) Exploration of menopausal symptoms, the impact of estrogen changes on various body functions, and the need to change the narrative around menopause. Menopause and Intimacy (00:12:19) Concerns about the impact of menopause on intimacy, including changes in desire, body image, and self-esteem, and the importance of self-care and acceptance. Using Lube and Alternative Pleasure (00:18:35) Discussion about the use of lube, the normalization of its use, and the exploration of alternative ways to experience pleasure during menopause. Exploring Pleasure and Intimacy (00:20:35) The speaker discusses the importance of exploring pleasure, intimacy, and desire during menopause, and how to identify what works for each individual. Understanding Different Types of Desire (00:21:40) The speaker explains the concept of spontaneous and responsive desire and how different factors contribute to what turns individuals on. Redefining Sex and Intimacy (00:22:45) The discussion challenges traditional views of sex, emphasizes the importance of communication, and suggests exploring alternative ways to experience pleasure. Approaching Intimacy Changes (00:24:40) The conversation provides tips on how to approach conversations about intimacy changes, including starting with smaller steps and seeking support. Understanding Erotic Blueprints (00:27:24) The concept of erotic blueprints is introduced as a way to understand individual sexual needs and preferences, and how partners can explore them together. Supporting Partners Going Through Menopause (00:29:45) The speakers share insights on how partners can support individuals going through menopause, including creating a supportive environment and understanding changing needs. Creating a Shared Journey Through Menopause (00:32:01) The conversation emphasizes the importance of seeing menopause as a shared journey and working together to navigate the changes. Improving Sleep and Creating Ease (00:34:47) Tips for improving sleep and creating a comfortable environment during menopause are discussed, highlighting the importance of making adjustments to daily routines. Accessing Coaching and Resources (00:36:07) Information about accessing relationship coaching and resources, including a certified relationship coach training course, is provided for those interested in working with the speaker. Follow Ali Hendry: https://linktr.ee/alihendrycoaching Follow Jen: https://linktr.ee/jenniferkayloruscin Coaching With Jen: https://tr.ee/Kyr1jmHC6e --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/support