Following Your Life Path with Charlie Wagstaff Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes, you might even feel that the whole world is against you. But everything happens for a reason and you have the power to create your destiny. In this episode, Charlie Wagstaff discusses his life journey and its golden nuggets. If you think being the second choice and not fitting in isn’t good, he’s about to change your mind. He shares his insights and realizations from his family and career. Lastly, he talks about believing in yourself and making an impact on the world. If you want to find out how you can grab hold of your destiny, this episode is for you!  Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Find out why being the second choice is a good thing. Learn how to understand other people’s perspectives. Discover out how to control your destiny.  Resources  Coaching with Angela Cox Listen to The Mindset Mentor Connect with Charlie Wagstaff: LinkedIn  Criticaleye Episode Highlights  [02:22] A Peek into Charlie’s Shed  Everyone needs a space to work due to COVID and his was a potting shed. Charlie likes being there because there’s a lot of light and he can see clearly in it. The shed serves as an escape. [04:32] Being the Second Choice Rather than shaking his pom-poms, Charlie feels more comfortable talking about how he acquired or built up his proudest moments. One of his pom-poms is he’s been the second choice on numerous occasions. Being the second choice made him realize not being liked by everyone is okay as long as he does the right thing. Listen to the full episode to find out the many times Charlie was the second choice — and how amazing those experiences turned out! [10:49] Believing in Yourself   As long as you believe in what you’re doing, everything will work out fine. Some things are just meant to happen. These things happen for a reason. They probably made you tougher and more resilient–making you believe you fought for it whether you have or not.   [13:14] Was Charlie Second Choice With His Wife? Charlie said he would ask her if he was her second choice. They waited to marry because they wanted to find the right person. His parents’ divorce impacted him and his brother differently. Despite their differences, Charlie and his brother love each other greatly. [14:22] Understanding Others  Get out of your comfort zone; there’s always something out there you can relate to.  Finding something to relate to gives comfort, which makes you feel safe to explore. Charlie has always loved other people’s perspectives because it replenishes him; on the other hand, parochialism disadvantages people. While watching Happy Valley, he’s reminded that people’s perspectives are based on their individual experiences. [16:11] Knowing Your Limits  Understanding other people’s perspectives is a coping tactic. Observing yourself and other people allows you to learn so much and empowers you. But it’s also important to buck certain things off and remember that there’s only so much you can do to help others.  [17:19] Controlling Your Destiny You can control destiny. Working in the corporate world, Charlie learned a lot but he also worked with lots of bullies. He didn’t know how to deal with them. To create your own path, determine what path that is and take control. The corporate world is tough but he learned a lot on transitioning and backing yourself. [18:53] Fostering Self-Belief and Forging Ahead Sit back and reflect. His family has a history of doing their own thing — some things were successful while others didn’t quite work out. If you hit a wall, there’s always a way around it. His family is a sanctuary for him, and family can be found in different places. [24:21] Charlie’s Family Because of his father’s absence, he didn’t think he wanted children. While his brother was unable to accept th