Why do we as a death-phobic culture offer the words "Let me know if you need anything" to those experiencing grief, loss, or huge life shifts? What exactly does "Anything" entail? In this SOLO episode, Elena breaks down the concept of learning how to ask for what you need as a grieving person, and how to genuinely offer help to those in mourning. Topics covered include: why do people offer condolences in this way? how do we discern those who are genuine delegating our needs to those we trustwhat types of things can we ask for help with?being OKAY with receiving a "No" or rejectionvulnerability in speaking your needs to someone you loveworthiness around deserving support & receivinghow ancestrally, a tribal culture leads to a more supportive community around griefbeing under-resourced as a society leads to lacking the ability to offer support Resources: "Grieve Outside the Box" book -- order on Amazon  Support the show