“After listening to the episode on apologies, I felt very enlightened and as if my horizon was broadened a lot! I used to apologize a lot because I always saw myself as some sort of mistake or as the responsible person for things that turned out bad - and at that time I didn't even realize that it was either my perception of myself being a bad person or the wish to just escape and stop an uncomfortable situation (because I'm sorry proved to be a quite good argument killer) that made me apologize. But now I have realized that I don't have to beat myself up for making mistakes or triggering my partner. I used to think to trigger someone means to have done something wrong or bad that has to be erased or fixed immediately. Now I know that it is inevitable to impact a person and that this will occur all the time. Instead for apologizing for every single time I impact my partner, I now understand that simply acknowledging my actions and the emotional reactions they caused, is the reasonable thing to do. So thank you Jayson for teaching me that. I want to practice this tool and implement it into my ways of human interaction.”
Marius via ·
07/07/16