The Japanese argue that we each have three faces. The first is your idealized, near-perfect version; it's also the mask you present to the world. You reveal your second face selectively to very close friends and family, and you keep your third face — your true self — hidden from everyone (including, perhaps, yourself). Our first mask conveys self-assuredness. Of being happy, put together, and in charge. But beneath our masks, we are messy creatures. We may even be living in deep emotional pain. On today's show: A conversation with author Jarod K. Anderson about removing our masks, being vulnerable, and boldly accepting our authentic, messy selves.   * A note from Stephanie: The future of this show is uncertain, and it needs hundreds (hundreds!) more supporters to stay afloat. If you find yourself thinking about the world differently after listening, please consider supporting the show with $5 per month or $45 per year. Thank you for doing your part  to keep Sustainable Minimalists in existence! https://sustainableminimalists.substack.com   Here's a preview: [6:00] Shoulds, musts, and our cultural love of billable productivity [10:00] Jarod's thoughts on why we tend to turn to external validation and societally-approved markers to enhance self-esteem [13:00] The toxic myth that is 'rugged individualism' [18:00] Exactly why vulnerability is terrifying but essential  [25:00] How to view the natural world as a medicinal anchor that accepts us just as we are   Resources mentioned: Something in the Woods Loves You Jarod on Instagram   Resources mentioned: This show is listener-supported. Thank you for supporting! Join our (free!) Facebook community here. Find your tribe. Sustainable Minimalists are on Facebook, Instagram + Youtube @sustainableminimalists Say hello! [email protected]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices