There are two types of friends, and Emily and Lucy are opposites. Emily believes in friendship minimalism; culling friends that don't spark joy. However Lucy disagrees, and reckons that friends from all walks of life can be valuable. Which one are you? Plus, we dissect the '75 HARD' challenge that has been making the rounds on TikTok for what it really is; disordered eating. Lucy opens up about her experience in this area, and why this challenge is more dangerous than it seems. And on...

This week, we had a listener contact us about this feeling they had that this pandemic had stolen a huge part of their 20s, and we have to agree. Our 20s are meant to be a time of traveling, hooking up and making mistakes, so how do we reconcile the loss of that? And is there anything we've gained instead? Also, we bring you a bumper recommendation segment of all our favourite sex accessories, from lube, to lingerie, to glass dildos and something called a Drip Stick. Plus, we hear a listener...

Most of the country has been in lockdown for a while now, but we don't want to stop dating or having sex, so we're resorting to dating on FaceTime. But it can be daunting. Lucy dated her boyfriend for months via FaceTime before meeting, so has some tips for breaking the ice when you're separated by a screen, plus some virtual date ideas and ways to get freaky via your phone. We also discuss what happened when a prominent influencer and journalist posted an offensive story on her Instagram...

What makes you decide to hit that unfollow button on Instagram? With a certain big Australian influencer losing followers by the tens of thousands due to her anti-vax views, we thought we'd dive into what makes us switch off from wanting to see someone's content. Plus, have you heard of the Girlboss? Well, she's dead. The girlboss was everywhere a few years ago, but after the fall of many high profile female CEOs, we're rejecting the girlboss for good. The End Bits  Need extra support...

How many besties do you have? One, or a bunch? Emily is looking for her one true best friend, but Lucy reckons you can have as many as you want. Plus, we discuss Instagram's move to get rid of it's 'swipe up' story feature for people with 10k+ followers and how it might (or might not) democratise the platform more, and we answer a listener confession from someone who is concerned that they haven't been in love by 22... The End Bits  Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14...

Did you go through an 'awkward phase'? Usually between about 10 and 16, it might have involved questionable make up, clothes we thought were cool, and a stack of photos we wish we could bury. But young Gen Z kids seem to be skipping this phase altogether thanks to social media, and we're not sure that's a good thing. Plus, we discuss a feature on Tinder that asks people if they're sure before sending an abusive message, and Lucy and Em want to know if this is just protecting the wrong...

Lucy reckons there's two types of people in lockdown: those who save and those who shop. If you are the latter you have probably made some great purchases, and not so great. Lucy and Em talk round up our listener's best and worst lockdown purchases so far. Plus, we speak to Mamamia's Head of People and Culture, Nicolle Stuart, about exactly how to ask for a mental health day at work, and answer a listener dilemma from someone who can't seem to get past the first date. The End Bits  Need...

On today's episode, Em and Lucy are joined by queen of the internet and hilarious human Tanya Hennessy, to tell us some of her worst dating stories, and they. Are. Wild. She also tells us about what it's like dating her younger partner, and gives some very practical advice to Em for meeting people on dating apps. Plus, we discuss why this lockdown this year feels VERY different from last year. Thanks to our guest, Tanya Hennessy. The End Bits  Click here to read 'My sister got me through...

Chantelle Otten is one busy women. Not only is she a psycho-sexologist and writer, she is also the host of Sealed Section, Mamamia's sex podcast where nothing is off limits. She joins us this episode to chat about how she became a sexologist, the problems she hears most often at her practice, and the one client that managed to surprise her. She also answers a few anonymous listener questions about vibrators, masturbating when you live with your parents, and being 'better' at sex. Also, can...

How many group chats are you in right now? According to Emily, there are 7 different types of people in the group chat (and they're not all good), and Lucy breaks down the chat etiquette rules. Plus, lately we've received some dm's about friendship breakups, and how heartbreaking they can be. Em and Lucy discuss how to save a friendship, whether it's worth it and how to let go. And, our friend and colleague Maddie joins us to tell us about the date that literally changed her life, and it all...

Last week, Lucy asked her Instagram followers what they wished they could tell their younger selves about sex, and was inundated with responses. Some were funny, but all of them were telling about how damaging a lack of understanding and education about sex can be. Lucy and Em discuss some of the responses, and what they wish they'd known. Plus, does your skin somehow get worse during lockdowns, despite wearing less makeup and using more skincare? You're not imagining it, it's called...

Mahalia Handley has a face you might recognise; she's an internationally regarded model who has has worked for some of the world's biggest brands, and she's also an activist who tirelessly campaigns for more diversity and inclusion in the modelling industry. But this interview is about something else: Body Dysmorphic Disorder. BDD is an illness that makes people who experience it incredibly anxious about perceived flaws in their appearance, and Mahalia is open and candid about her diagnosis...

It's week three of lockdown in Sydney (and a whole lot of other states around Australia) and we're still recording in blanket forts! It's been a tough time for a lot of people so Lucy and Em have collated some tips that make them feel good and get out of a slump, lockdown or not. Also, we discuss dating safely when using apps; what are some red flags, where to meet and how to keep your friends in the loop at all time, plus for Dating Diary Em breaks down the three types of people you'll...

Emily and Lucy are still in lockdown and recording in their closets and under doonas, but the show must go on! On today's Big Issue, Em and Lucy have a tough conversation about accountability, and apologising to your friends. It isn't the easiest thing to do, so we go through the best ways to go about it. Plus, have you ever been a 'Pick Me Girl'? Most of us have, at one point or another. We break down exactly what this is, and Em tells us the story of one of her worst dates on Dating...

Have you ever experienced something so cringy that you still lie awake at night thinking about it? Come on, we all have. Em and Lucy spill their stories so we can all feel the shame together. Plus, we discuss whether you can still consume someone's art when they've been cancelled, and Mamamia's Jessie Stephens joins us for Dating Diary to tell us about the worst date of her life (and it's a shocker). The End Bits  Thanks to our guest Jessie Stephens, who you can listen to on Mamamia Out...

When Lucy posted a confession about someone 'settling' in their relationship on Instagram, she got tons of messages from people who related. We thought we'd unpack the concept of settling in a relationship, and in life. Lucy and Em also discuss the exclusion of diverse shades of foundation in Australia, and  for Dating Diary Lucy describes the one night stand that changed her standards forever. The End Bits  Click here to read Why is it still so hard for women of colour to find their...

There's only one thing we can think about recently, and it's the treatment of the Biloela family by our government. Emily opens up about how we can help. Plus, we break down exactly how to cancel plans properly, and Lucy tells a dating diary story that is too outrageous to include details here... The End Bits  Click here to sign the change.org petition Bring Priya and her beautiful family back home to Biloela, Queensland You can read Emily's article here: "The Biloela family have been...

This week Lucy and Em discuss everything from Instagram's decision to bring back 'like' counts, to whether you can truly balance a career AND a relationship. We're also joined by comedian Becky Lucas for Dating Diary, and she fills us in on her woeful sex education, plus Emily and Lucy tell some truly embarrassing 'first time' stories. The End Bits Thank you to our guest Becky Lucas. You can get her book Acknowledgments: Stories of Friends, Enemies and Figuring Things Out here. Click...

Welcome to The Undone! A podcast for people navigating their 20's without a GPS. Last week Emily revealed she had never got a pap smear, even though she'd just turned 25, so we decided to get a real doctor in to bust some myths. Dr Ginni Mansberg is a GP with a passion for women's health, and you won't believe the what we learn from her. Also, we discuss Naomi Osaka's brave decision to forgo post match interviews for her own mental health, and Lucy tells a truly horrendous Dating Diary...

Last week on The Undone we discussed being 'cheugy', and we think we've found the male equivalent: 'the ick'. It's the feeling you get when a guy does something that makes you less attracted to him, and we have a few (ok, many) examples. We are also joined by host of The Spill Laura Brodnik to chat about the highs and lows, but mostly highs, of being a woman who lives alone. Plus, Em opens up about the loneliness she often feels on her birthday and why everyone should take themselves away...

Chances are you've heard of So Dramatic, the reality TV podcast that creates as much news as it breaks. We're so excited to have host Megan Pustetto join us to spill the tea on having the most notorious podcast in the country, including the wildest tip off she's ever received, her diagnosis of PTSD from being trolled, and how she deals with a DM folder fills with thousands of messages. Plus, Emily and Lucy discuss why being called 'cheugy' is making millennials SO mad. The End Bits Thank...

Are you on the 'edge of burnout'? Lucy feels like she is and has bought an old alarm clock to try and beat it. Plus, we have a listener dilemma about the pros and cons of moving out with friends, and we discuss red flags; the ones we can laugh at and the ones that are more insidious. The End Bits You can read Mamamia's article on financial abuse here: Do any of these apply to you? The warning signs of financial abuse. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If...

This week, we received a confession that potentially stepped over the line from petty to...criminal, which got us thinking about the benefits of being petty versus taking the high road. Em and Luce don't exactly see eye to eye. Plus, Emily has figured out a foolproof way to start a good conversation on dating apps, and it all boils down to three simple questions. The End Bits You can read Em's article, 'I ask the men I meet on dating apps 3 questions. So far, I've had a 100% success...

Last year, our own Lucy Neville was diagnosed with a rare auto-immune disease that left her in excruciating pain and unable to walk at age 24. She opens up about what it was like dating during this time while managing her pain, and a pandemic. And Emily has a Dating Diary story that ends with her being ghosted by the same guy, from the same app.... The End Bits Thanks to Anthony Chesler, CEO at Thread Together:  https://www.commbank.com.au/support/next-chapter.html You can read Lucy's...

What's the difference between being alone and lonely? And in a world that seems to be pushing women to think they can only be happy in a relationship, how can we make sure we're not wishing away our single life? Stacey June is the author of Single Pringle, and joins Lucy and Em to discuss exactly that, plus answer a listener dilemma. Also, we're joined by friend of the pod Taylor who has the worst breakup story we've ever heard, and it involved a 'floating RSL'. The End Bits  With special...