"People who share their fantasies are the happiest and most sexually satisfied in their relationships." // What’s the different between a fetish and a fantasy? What are the benefits of communicating our deepest desires? What are the most common fantasies among Republicans versus Democrats? These and many more questions are address by social psychologist Dr Justin Lehmiller's new book Tell Me What You Want, for which he surveyed 4200 Americans on their erotic fantasies. // Dr Lehmiller and Tina chatted about why we want what we can't have, or what we've been raised to believe we're not supposed to want in the first place, and much more! // Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.