243. UnF*ck Your Brain: Body Image, Desire and Coaching with Kara Loewentheil Kara Loewentheil, J.D., is a Master Certified Coach, host of the top-rated podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and creator of the Clutch: A feminist mindset revolution. A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, she did what every Ivy League feminist lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach!  Thanks to our sponsor Uber Lube 10% off, Code NOTBROKEN  uberlube.com Check out my retreat March 2024! https://ascendretreats.com/ In this conversation, Kelly Casperson interviews Kara Loewentheil about thoughtwork and its impact on desire and pleasure. They discuss the influence of society on women's thoughts and desires, the historical context of women's desire, and the concept of object of affirmation desire. They also explore body image and self-criticism, the importance of communication in relationships, and the process of changing thoughts and self-criticism. Overall, the conversation highlights the power of thoughtwork in transforming women's relationship with desire and pleasure. In this conversation, Kara Loewentheil discusses the impact of society's expectations on women and how thought work can help break free from sexist thinking. She emphasizes the transformational power of thought work and the importance of commitment and practice. Kara shares her personal experiences and how thought work has changed various aspects of her life. She also highlights the need to embrace the human experience and let go of the fantasy of constant improvement. The conversation concludes with an announcement about Kara's book, 'Take Back Your Brain.' Takeaways Society plays a significant role in shaping women's thoughts and desires. Women are often socialized to see themselves as objects of desire and believe that their desirability is dependent on others. Body image and self-criticism can negatively impact women's relationship with desire and pleasure. Communication is essential in fostering healthy and fulfilling sexual relationships. Changing thoughts and self-criticism is a gradual process that requires patience and self-compassion.   www.instagram.com/karalowentheil https://unfuckyourbrain.com/ Take Back Your Brain https://amzn.to/3RufcoX https://unfuckyourbrain.com/   Check out details for my retreat: https://ascendretreats.com/ Did you get my “You Are Not Broken” Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Join my NEW Adult Sex Ed Master Class: https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/adult-sex-ed Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message